Okay, I need parenting advice. Kyra goes to preschool. And this month they have been learning all of their shapes. So each day, a shape is highlighted, and the kids are encouraged to go home and find something that is the shape for the next day. Well it was square day, and so she took an empty puzzle box. Well, when she got home, I found a couple toy cars inside the box. I asked her about it and she said it was just an accident (I talked to the teacher, and she said that she even helped Kyra put the cars in the box, and she just forgot to take them out). Kyra said that she wanted to keep the cars, and my thought was that this would be a good opportunity to teach a life lesson, and explained that when we take something, and its not ours, and we don't give it back, its stealing. So we decided that the next day she would take the cars back, and tell Mrs. Jo-Anne sorry. I thought it was the end of the story....is it ever the end of the story?!?!
Well I was putting Kyra's back pack away today, and she HAS 4 MAGNIFIYING GLASSES INSIDE. I asked her, "Kyra why did you steal these from Mrs. Jo-Anne's...we talked about this? She replies back "I stole them, so I can give them back and say sorry." So now what do I do??? 1)Stress that it is still stealing, and have her give them back and say sorry (because that obviously worked or so well last time).
2)Have her apoligize and take away a priviledge. (Even though I think she knows what she did was wrong, she obviously was trying to be naughty.
3) I just return them, we don't make a big deal at all about returning them, and just cross our fingers it doesn't happen again, and she just doing it to get attention???
Any thoughts??? Thanks in advance.
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Military school. You got me. I stole 5 pieces of bubblegum from the PD store in Playas one time. My mom figured out that I had more bubble gum in my paper bag than she has originally said I could have. She made me to go to the store and give them to the clerk and tell him I was sorry. It dramatized me so much, that I haven't stolen since. Of course... I was about 6 years old at the time. You're a good mom, I'm sure whatever you'll figure out will work. Of course, you could always have her frisk before she leaves from school everyday. Guess I shouldn't give any advise, seeing that I don't have any kids.
Landon took some toys from pre-school once too. We had him give them back and say sorry. He hasn't done it again. My experience has been that they are still a little too young understand what they are doing :) But if they get to elementary school, and still do it, then you have a problem-I had more than one student that was a complusive stealer :) Good for you for being a good mommy and wanting to work on it now :)
I'd go for 3 and then if it happens again 2.
I would go for 3. Kyra is smart and maybe she took them because she gets a little more attention from Jo Anne when she says sorry. If she does it again I would try 2
It sounds like she took the glasses because she likes the process of giving them back and saying sorry...maybe you should explain to her that it makes Miss Jo-Anne sad when her things are taken. Repetition, repetition, repetition! If it keeps happening, keep telling her it's wrong, and see if she can tell you why it's wrong after you've explained. Three year olds are smarter than we give them credit for. If I tell Aidan no about something and that if he keeps doing it, he'll lose something. He does get it, because I'll say "if you keep doing this what will happen?" and he says "I'll lose my trains(example)" Good luck Sara, and let me know if you figure out the solution!
Sara--please don't worry. This happens A LOT at preschool. At this age, they are still operating under the idea that "what's mine is mine and what yours is mine". I will talk to all the kids about this again....I swear, this lecture and the one about how we don't eat our boogers are my best work! LOL! And also, please know that I NEVER judge a child for these things. (or their parents;).....)
Sara--please don't worry. This happens A LOT at preschool. At this age, they are still operating under the idea that "what's mine is mine and what yours is mine". I will talk to all the kids about this again....I swear, this lecture and the one about how we don't eat our boogers are my best work! LOL! And also, please know that I NEVER judge a child for these things. (or their parents;).....)
So, since I am playing catch up here I can ask how you ended up handling it. Did it work? I would love some ideas myself.
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